Who doesn’t want to fall in love? It’s an almost universal desire, as common as a hashtag on a Kardashian tweet. If you are interested in a girl and desperately want her to love you back, there are some ways to inspire her interest.
Getting a girl to fall in love with you requires you to build attraction with verbal and nonverbal interaction, while also showing her your naturally lovable qualities and taking the time to get to know her. Most importantly, be yourself and respect her for who she is.
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Learn how physical attraction works. Underlying all the emotion, thoughts, and hopes about love is our basic biochemistry. We are hard-wired to love! Attraction is based in brain chemistry.
A group of neurotransmitters called monoamines (dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin) creates the feeling we experience as attraction.
Dopamine is one of your brain’s “feel-good” chemicals (it’s where the term “dope” comes from). It’s also involved in your brain’s motivation and reward systems. When you meet someone you’re attracted to, dopamine starts sending feel-good chemical “rewards” to your system.
Norepinephrine, sometimes known as noradrenaline (but not the same thing as adrenalin), delivers messages to your central nervous system.
[2]Norepinephrine is responsible for your ability to “block out” information that isn’t as interesting as the smart partner in front of you.
Serotonin regulates a lot of functions in your body, including sexual behavior and body temperature. When you are very attracted to someone, serotonin decreases your body temperature, which makes your skin slightly more able to conduct electricity. This is the reason that love can literally make your skin tingle.
In fact, experts say that attraction stimulates the same chemicals in the brain that addiction does, such as dopamine and oxytocin. If a girl isn’t attracted to you, it’s nothing to do with you: it’s all down to the chemicals in each person’s brain.
A researcher at Rutgers University suggests that it takes less than one second for the brain to decide whether it considers someone to be attractive or not.[
You may be able to overcome or cope with this split-second first impression, or you may not.
If not, don’t take it personally: people are not able to manage spontaneous impulses and what is judged may not have anything to do negatively with you. For instance, some women are drawn to men which are high risk-takers, some are more attracted to those who seem more cautious. There is nothing wrong with being either.
Understanding how attraction works may seem to take some of the mystery and magic from this human emotion. However, what it does make clear is that love and attraction is a fundamental part of how we are hard-wired. And it is on a level that is not heavily rational. And sometimes the chemistry literally is right or wrong.
2. Take care of you.
Women are generally attracted to men or women who demonstrate that they are able to care for themselves. This includes good grooming, and an overall healthy look. Keeping your body feeling and looking strong and healthy, is a big evolutionary sign of your “reproductive fitness” — basically, a sign that your genes are strong and healthy too.
Keeping yourself well-groomed and healthy suggests self-confidence and a healthy respect for yourself, which most people find attractive.
This does not mean you have to go overboard and become a marathoner or a bodybuilder. You may, however, want to consider join a gym or an ultimate Frisbee team to feel healthy and more confident about yourself, and thus be more attractive. Be the best version of yourself and be true to yourself, and remember that you do not have to be the best looking to be good looking.
3. Groom yourself for success.
Your physical appearance and presence is the biggest first impression. It is also usually the strongest. You can have a great online profile and interaction, but if you finally meet the girl in real life and you reek of body odor and wear unflattering clothing, that will make a stronger impression than any online chat room.
Control odors.
Women in most industrialized societies are put off by strong body odors. Someone who does not bathe regularly, does not use antiperspirant, or wears clothes that stink, will be unsuccessful.
Take care of your body.
It is entirely possible to find love if one is imperfect: obese, have eczema, balding...whatever. However, doing your best to maximize your appearance will both directly look more attractive and make you feel more confident.
Wear attractive clothing.
Every society has a sense of what sort of clothing is attractive, and puts forth social signals of virility, confidence, and masculinity. If your clothing is unattractive, off-putting, or really odd, that sends a signal that there may be something wrong with the wearer.
4.Consider body language signals.
Body language can be either conscious (like winking at someone) or subconscious (like your lips reddening or pupils dilating). People convey a variety of messages through body language, including the language of attraction. Most body language signs relevant to physical attraction communicate a few basic messages:
I am available: Lack of a likely partner, and looks confident and emotionally balanced.
I am interested: When a person says hi, a friendly and possibly flirty conversation strikes up.
I am harmless: There is no aggressive or "strange" behavior.
I am fertile: An overall healthy, youthful, energetic appearance.
I am approachable: Body language appears to be open and relaxed.
5. Look for open body language.
Body language cues that say “I’m available” and “I’m approachable” suggest that the other person is in a state of mind that is receptive to your advances. Look for things such as:
Smiling
Making eye contact with you
Looking up (instead of staying absorbed with a phone, etc.)
Standing or sitting with the arms and legs relaxed and uncrossed
Keeping her feet pointed toward you if you’re having a conversation
Glancing at you from a distance, looking away for a time, then looking at you--not staring.
6.Look for signs of attraction.
Some body language is unconscious and happens when we are attracted to someone. Others are more conscious behaviors. Looking for these cues can help you figure out if your tender feeling for the girl is reciprocal.
•Flushed or reddened cheeks
Reddened lips or lips that appear to get plumper
•Dilated pupils
The person moves a “block” from out of your way such as shifting a bag that had been in between you.
A suddenly racing heart or more rapid breathing
•Licking her lips
Subtly echoing your body language. For instance, if you shift your weight from one side to the other, she does something similar a few moments later.
•Momentary touches.
For example, light, brief touch on your arm, wrist, or knee.
Remember: none of these behaviors will definitively mean she is attracted to you. While they are good signs, do not jump to conclusions. The girl with rosy cheeks and dilated pupils who moves her purse for you on the bus may just be a courteous and easily flushed girl who just came back from the eye doctor!
Never assume her sexuality. You may come off as rude and ruin chances of befriending her.
7.Pay attention to the way she is smiling. A genuine smile from a woman may be a signal that she wants to make herself more attractive to you. (It may also just be a sign that she’s friendly, so make sure to check out her other body language cues as well.) Watch to see what facial muscles she uses when she smiles to get a sense of whether it’s real or not.
Genuine smiles, also called duchenne smiles, use the muscles around the eyes as well as the mouth. Fake smiles usually only move the muscles around the mouth, and these smiles may look tight or empty. There’s a reason Tyra Banks is always telling models to “smile with your eyes.”
8.Signal your own attraction. Once you’ve determined whether you have a shot or not, you can do a few things with your own body language to tell the girl you’re interested in her.
Make eye contact with her and smile.
Get a little closer to her. Maybe move to a closer table in the coffee shop, or go grab a napkin while she is at the condiment station. This can help her pick up on your pheromones, which help signal attraction.
Tilt your head if you are talking to her or looking at her. Head-tilting is a sign of interest.
9.Try an opening gambit.
Also known as a “pickup line,” an opening gambit is how you initiate a conversation. Despite the general creepiness of the pickup artist community, you don’t have to be a 'creepster' to use an opening gambit. Studies suggest that there are three types:
•The direct opener.
These are honest and get straight to the point, like “I think you’re really cute” or “I’m kind of shy, but I’d love to chat with you.” In general, men tend to prefer to receive these openers when others initiate conversations with them.
•The innocuous opener.
These get a conversation going but don’t go straight for a target, like “What do you think of this place?” or “Do you come here often?” In general, women tend to prefer these openers when others initiate conversations with them.
•The cute/flippant opener.
These involve humor, but are often cheesy or even nasty, such as “Do you like your eggs scrambled or fertilized?” Sometimes these work to "break the ice" but you also risk coming off as sleazy, desperate, or weird. Both men and women in general rank these as the least attractive option.
If you’re looking to strike up a conversation with a girl, your best bet is to use an innocuous opener.
Studies have also shown that honest and supportive gambits more often result in long-term relationships, whereas strategies that use manipulation or dishonesty (like the cute/flippant gambit) result in short-term relationships.
10.Try a gentle touch if you sense that she is inviting you.Touching is a great way to signal physical attraction. If you have been talking for a while and the girl seems interested in you, you can try a light brush of her arm or touch her hand.[
Do not touch a girl unless she is giving you strong signals that she is into you. Even then, proceed with caution. It is usually a good idea to wait until she has initiated some type of touch.
If the girl responds negatively to your touch, apologize, and do not try again for a while. Showing her respect and giving her space may well gain her good graces. Being overly aggressive will not.
Make sure your physical touches are culturally-appropriate. What is acceptable in Colorado may not be in Morocco. Also, what is considered fine at a public university in Toronto may not be for a very conservative Christian school in Oklahoma.
If you're unsure at all, ask for physical touching! For instance, holding out your hand to give it a friendly shake. Or asking, "May I give you a hug?" or, "Would you like some help putting sunscreen on your back?" This allows for physical touching in a way that respects her boundaries, and being straightforward about it.
Do not get fixated on touching the girl. You do not have to physically touch a girl in the early stages of flirting. Trying too hard, or putting undue pressure to touch can backfire severely and make you come off as "creepy".
The moment for a touch will often "just happen". If the connection and attraction is there, often a moment will simply organically happen. The two of you reach for the same tater tot at the cafeteria, or she puts her hand on yours at the movies, or something along those lines.
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